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Ready To Love Your Life, and Your Love Life?

Without 

The Loneliness, Drama, Confusion, Shame and Overwhelm

 

When you want a great love life AND a life you love, you lay a foundation of love. 

You have to show up for your life with love and a heart that is healed and wide open.

Are you ready to start receiving the abundance of love available to you right now? 

The Foundations For Love Membership experience will give you the coaching and tools to effectively pursue your God-given desire for meaningful relationships and marriage. 

Whether you're in a relationship, longing for a connection, or just trying to love yourself, I support you. 

 

       

 

Your Monthly Membership Include Immediate Access To The Following: 

 
Private Coaching:

 

Get coached by me once a month for free!

For a limited time, your subscription includes a complimentary 60-minute private coaching session each month. 

I'll help you see how your mind works and why you feel like you do, and then I'll help you change it to honor your God-given desires. 


I'll help you change your life in the following ways:

 

  • Less internal conflict means you stop beating yourself up
  • More connection and meaning in your relationships
  • Start dating or take your romantic relationship to the next level - when you're ready
  • Honor your God-given desire for marriage 
  • Learn how to be alone without being lonely
  • Prepare for intimate emotional and spiritual connection
  • Enjoy being yourself and know that you are enough and not too much
     

My Signature Course:

Ready For The One 

 

  • A self-paced marriage prep course that covers the 6 primary relationship milestones you'll pass on your journey toward a committed love life
  • Over 30 Video lessons that support you through being single, dating, courtship, and engagement.
  • Take action with a complete set of resources and reflective material to help you integrate your learning. 

 

PLUS 

 

  • 90-Day Devotional
  • Weekly Group Coaching
  • Access to Replay Library 
  • Meditation pack 
  • 31-Day Digital Detox Challenge 
  • Conversation Starters 
  • The Relationship Starter Course
  • New Bonuses Coming Soon!

 

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Before I Tell You All About This Life-Changing Program, Let’s Talk About Who This Is Really For...

 

You’ve been burned before. You thought it was love and were sure you heard God, but when it didn't work out, you spent a long time wondering if you made it all up. 

You're a warm, tender-hearted woman who sincerely wants to love and be loved.

You want to commit and let someone in, but you're unsure if you're ready. 

You hope to make a significant difference in the life of someone special, but you don't want to betray yourself. 

 

Whether You're...

  • 39, 50, or 65+ years old

  • Been through a divorce or never been kissed

  • Shy as a mouse or a little "too" much 

  • Know exactly what your want or feel totally clueless

 

 I'm Here To Help

 

You’re in the right place, and I’m going to tell you exactly how the Foundations For Love Program will give you the coaching, mindset, tools, and Christ-centered support you’ll ever need on your journey toward love

 

 

What I love the most about this program is the bite-sized wisdom I incorporated into my every day and the fact that I can revisit the work as often as I want. 

Meeting Lily and having her as my coach was one of my best decisions because I didn’t realize just how much brain drama I had!

She has helped me sift through a lot of confusing, scary,  and unhelpful thoughts. I know this work was necessary to grow into the woman God created me to be.

I would recommend this program to women who know they have so much love to give to the right man but are tired of the hurt.

Vicky Spooner UK

 

Exclusive Limited Time Offer

With this coaching experience,

you'll be able to…

 

  • Established a solid foundation for your marriage by building upon your relationship with God. 
  • Discover your true worth and ensure your validation comes through that still small voice within. 
  • Selectively connect with partners who meet your standards and have true potential in an equally-yoked marriage. 
  • Validate your relationship to ensure you're ready and willing to invest in taking the connection to the next level.
  • Prayerfully consider each individual before advancing the relationship. 
  • Navigated those challenging questions and conversations that can make or break a relationship. 
  • Give your relationships the time they need to bloom and grow
  • Reduced the time between starting a relationship and announcing your commitment by decreasing the uncertainty and unnecessary drama. 

 

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A Small Sample Of Our Amazing Community

I finally know who I am in Christ and believe it's okay to cherish myself.  I can’t wait to wake up and spend quality time with Jesus.  I can’t wait to let my future husband know I have been praying for Him! This has been an enormous blessing, and I have loved working with Lily and the RFTO program.

- Melissa 

 

I feel this course brought order to my life. It answered deep-core questions and guided me through situations that came up in the dating process. It provided solid troubleshooting for potential dating situations, and it gave me the confidence to ask for exactly what I needed. Plus, the coaching support was priceless.

- Simone

 

Ready For The One was terrific for helping me step through the phases of transforming my mind and heart to prepare for embracing love from God and a man again. I needed Lily and her program to help me see the fear and habits holding me back from trying to pursue love. 

- Abdi 

 

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What’s Inside

 

Ready For The One

My Signature Relationship Milestone Course

 

Module 1

Take Back Your Power

 

When you co-author your love story with God, you can decide what the ending will look like.

Here’s why it pays to take full responsibility for your love life - it gets you out of that damsel in distress mentality and puts you back in the driver's seat for making Christ-centred decisions about who you choose to love and why. 

You’ll get on the fast track to deciding who you are, what you want, and how you will get it. Stop wasting time in indecision and overwhelm and start making choices that honor God and the dreams He has hidden in your heart. 

Highlights:

  • Learn how to use The Life Code, my primary coaching tool for adopting the mind of Christ, fuelling your relationships with the fruit of the Holy Spirit, and developing self-control for the Glory of God.
  • Grow in your spiritual and emotional maturity so that you can make decisions about your future with integrity and wisdom. 
  • Discover your God-given desires and what you want in a partner, and map out a plan to pursue your purpose with conviction and grace. 
  • Set yourself up for success by making peace with your past and examining your daily habits to ensure you prioritize taking care of yourself so that you can avoid developing codependent habits.

Module 2

Know Your Worth

 

You’re worth more than rubies, and it’s time to let it show. 

Learn to trust yourself, God, and others again to start creating a love story that demonstrates the faithfulness of the love in this world. 

You’ll start by Identifying who you want, what you want, and why you want it. These critical decisions will clarify where you're going and how you’ll get there. 

By embracing your true identity in Christ, you can approach love and relationships from a place of confidence and assurance in who He created you to be. Overcome the temptation to people please and hide behind socially acceptable masks by cherishing your core values and what makes you unique.

 

Highlights:

  • Never go on another date feeling love-starved. Prevent a multitude of missteps by practicing my 7 practical principles for starting a new relationship with respect love and trust for yourself and the other person. 
  • Avoid sabotaging your relationship by managing your expectations and recognizing manipulative tendencies in yourself and others. 
  • Craft an irresistible offer that attracts quality partners and protects you from narcissists and those who would prefer to hurt you, use you, or waste your time.

Module 3

Dating

 

Raise your hand if you’ve ever had this problem…

You want to make a good first impression, so you take out literally every piece of clothing you own, try it all on, and hate everything. Then you spend almost 3 hours working on your hair and makeup and leave the house feeling like you've been attacked by a parade of clowns and their makeup brushes. 

Everything spirals out of control, and getting ready for a date has left you feeling like a hot mess!

Yep, I get it!
I’ve done it myself no less than 900 times. 

But I have since discovered there's an art and science to making an excellent first impression. 

As a woman, you want to express your authenticity fully. You want to look your best, dare I say, sexy? 
But the last thing you want to do is send the wrong signals.

That’s why in Module 3, you’ll get access to the exact formula you need to send the right signals online and in the real world.

Making a great first impression is a skill you can learn and master. Show up feeling joyful, brilliant, and grounded in every area of your life without destroying your closet.

Highlights:

  • Meet quality partners even if you attend a small church or live in a little town. Be strategic about positioning yourself in the way of love so you never have to chase it. 
  • Decide on your personal dating protocol. Set your own rules according to what you feel led to through the guidance and wisdom of the Holy Spirit to help you be successful and safe. 
  • Understand the art and science of a good first impression and establish trust and honest communication. 
  • Transition through the dating phase efficiently while collecting the necessary information to make an informed decision about whether or not to proceed to the next stage of the relationship. 

Module 4

Discernment

 

Do you second guess yourself and lay awake all night, questioning whether or not you made the right decision? 

Learn the art of making Christ-centered decisions guided by the wisdom and truth of the Holy Spirit. Choosing who you will spend your life with is one of the most critical decisions.

Not only are you entering a sacred covenant, but this person will also tremendously impact your children, family, finances, faith, and every other area of your life.

These are deep and meaningful questions, but the answers aren’t in the world. They’re hidden in your heart, whispered to you by the still, small voice within. 

In this powerful module, you’ll learn to quiet the chaos in your mind and recognize the voice of the Good Shepherd guiding you forward. 

 

Highlights:

  • Don’t stay stuck in overwhelming indecision or confusion. Make Christ-centered decisions that you feel good about and move forward.  
  • Enjoy more time with God. This entire program is designed to take your relationship with Christ to a deeper level. Take all your cares and worries to Him and learn to hear His answers.
  • Stop beating yourself up. Let go of perfectionism and finally embrace the reality of life on Earth, the good, bad, and ugly, knowing at the deepest level that ALL things are working for your good.

Module 5

Courtship

 

Courtship is a beautiful and necessary bridge between dating and engagement.

Unfortunately, it is misunderstood, neglected, and ignored in modern dating culture. As a result, romantic relationships get stuck in the “wait and see” zone until they inevitably fall apart. 

Don’t let that happen to you. 

Courtship isn’t rigid, old-fashioned, or outdated. It works and feels incredible because you’re both on the same page and know exactly where the relationship is headed.

In this unique module, I’ll show you how to talk about your courtship and transition the relationship to the next level. 

Highlights:

  • Learn everything you need to know about courtship and how to make it work for you and your relationship.
  • What to do when you're in the courtship phase and the 10 categories you need to discuss before engagement. 
  • How to harmonize instead of compromise as a couple so that each of you can get what you want and need from the relationship. 

Module 6

Prepare For Marriage

 

Once you know that he is the one for you, there are a few more things you’ll want to put in place to help ensure your marriage is set up to last a lifetime. 

In the final module, you’ll tackle the 3 biggest obstacles that married couples face—Sex and Money and Conflict. 

Establish your marriage on a good foundation by working through these issues in advance so there are no misunderstandings or surprises later on. 

Then, in the final lesson, we will discuss how to ensure you have a honeymoon experience worth remembering.

Highlights:

  • The transition from “me to we” with intention, clarity, and understanding.
  • Develop a deeper level of intimacy with your fiancé as you prepare for committed love. 
  • Give yourself peace of mind with no secrets between you so no secrets between the two of you.

Plus These Bonuses to Help You Develop A Deeper Connection With Yourself, God, and Your Future Spouse

 

All Access Pass To Everything I Create!

 

  • Daily Devotional

  • Weekly Group Coaching

  • Access to Replay Library 

  • Meditation pack 

  • 31-Day Digital Detox Challenge 

  • Conversation Starters 

  • The Relationship Starter Course

     

 ***No Contract - Cancel or Switch plans anytime.  

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Frequently Asked Questions

Still thinking about it?

You should sign up and pursue your God-given desire for marriage if...

1. You want to get it right the FIRST TIME. 

 

Suppose you've been holding back from the dating scene because you don't know where to begin or how to pursue love in a way that honors your spirituality, and you're feeling scared. This program will help you overcome those initial obstacles and get you on the right path. 

More importantly, you'd prefer not to waste years of your life flirting with men who aren't able to fulfill the role you expect a man to play in a Christ-centred marriage. 

That's why you're motivated beyond measure to spend the next few months getting super clear on exactly what you want and laying a solid foundation to achieve your God-given desire. 

 

2. Experience has proved that you could use some help.

 

You've had some experience with relationships but discovered that things don't come as naturally as you expected. 

Before you go any further, you'd like some expert guidance on navigating the more technical parts of starting a relationship and transitioning through the various stages. 

If you're feeling driven to dig deeper into the who, what, why, and when of successful faith-based relationships, you'll absolutely love what's inside. 

 

3. You've been burned before. 

 

Whether you've been a heartbreaker or had your heart broken, you know that you could have made better decisions if you had been given more information. 

Perhaps you wouldn't have held on so long, hoping he would change, or you would have known when to let go. 

The best way to avoid repeating the cycle is to break it with intentional and deliberate prayer, love, and action. 

 

4. Online dating, speed dating, and blind dating have all failed. 

 

If you've already invested in putting yourself out there and you're not getting the results you want, it's time to reassess how you're using these tools. 

In Ready For The One, I teach you to show up for love without compromising your core values. 

Whether dating online or in real life, you'll learn the communication skills for making a great first impression, having meaningful conversations, and sparking a connection regardless of where and how you meet. 

 

5. Heartbreak seems unbearable. 

 

It's not even your heart you're worried about; it's his!

What if you meet a man who adores you but to whom you feel no romantic attraction?

If breaking up with someone or getting hurt seems too much, this program will help you learn that you are strong enough to endure the discomfort if a relationship doesn't go how you hoped it would. 

They say, "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." 

 

6. You're ready to do whatever it takes to achieve your marriage dream.

 

You're done wasting time, and as long as you don't have to betray yourself or your faith, you're ready and excited to do what it takes to get out there and attract the right one for you. 

You're  excited to discover more about yourself, and you know that the best way to grow is to invest in yourself and do something new and challenging. 

That's why you're looking for an opportunity to dig in deep and push yourself to step outside of your comfort zone because there's so much more to life that you're excited to embrace and experience. 

Join Now

 

I can’t wait for you to join The Foundations Program.

 

Here Are 10 Things You Should Know About How I Help People. 

  1. Helping people heal their relationships with themselves, God, and others.
  2. Listening and helping others feel seen and heard
  3. Witnessing their journey and providing perspective
  4. Holding sacred space for them to listen to the still, small voice within
  5. Asking great questions that expose lies and reveal truths that set you free 
  6. I love learning, and I'm not afraid to challenge my own beliefs and hold space for seemingly opposite ideas
  7. Practicing what I teach and trying to live an authentic life even when it's messy and painful
  8. Being open-minded and challenging myself to wrestle with hard truths
  9. Providing a safe space to explore your mind with light and love, nothing is crazy or too much
  10. I don't judge. Each person is on a unique journey, and I respect the various cultural, religious, and spiritual and other layers that make them special.

 

 Life and love are complicated. 

 

  • It's hard to share your life with someone.
  • A relationship won't solve your problems.
  • Love can be lonely.
  • It's not easy to be open and vulnerable.
  • We aren't taught how to do this while still being kind to ourselves and authentic with others.
  • You might not know where to focus your energy to change your life fundamentally.
  • Being married isn't better than being single - it's just different.
  • If you desire marriage - I believe that desire comes from God and you. 

 

I'm here to support you on your journey, no matter what it looks like 

 

 

You can impact the world by honoring your desire to love and be loved.

 

-Saphire Lily Mtongwiza

 

Your Monthly Membership Include Immediate Access To The Following: 

 
Private Coaching:

 

Get coached by me once a month for free!

For a limited time, your subscription includes a complimentary 60-minute private coaching session each month. 

I'll help you see how your mind works and why you feel like you do, and then I'll help you change it to honor your God-given desires. 


I'll help you change your life in the following ways:

 

  • Less internal conflict means you stop beating yourself up
  • More connection and meaning in your relationships
  • Start dating or take your romantic relationship to the next level - when you're ready
  • Honor your God-given desire for marriage 
  • Learn how to be alone without being lonely
  • Prepare for intimate emotional and spiritual connection
  • Enjoy being yourself and know that you are enough and not too much
     

My Signature Course:

Ready For The One 

 

  • Six core modules that cover the primary relationship milestones
  • Over 30 Video lessons
  • Workbook for each module

 

PLUS 

 

  • 90-Day Devotional
  • Weekly Group Coaching
  • Access to Replay Library 
  • Meditation pack 
  • 31 Day Challenge 
  • Conversation Starters 
  • The Relationship Starter Course
  • New Bonuses Coming Soon!

 

Start Now