The Remarkable Art Of Allowing Them To Judge You

People are going to judge you whether you like it or not. 


One of the reasons we have such an intense desire for self-control as a fruit of the Holy Spirit is that we want to use it to control and manipulate other people’s opinions. 


We think...

  • “I wish I could control myself more so they would like me.” 
  • “If I could speak more easily so they would listen to me.” 
  • “I need to control my eating so that I could be thinner, and he would be attracted to me.” 


But notice how that desire is more about...

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3 Reasons dating in 2021 is better than you think

If the lockdown put your love life on hold, then you might be a little bit skeptical about dating in the new year. But, despite the obvious challenges, there are 3 reasons why dating in 2021 in the midst of a pandemic is actually the best thing for you.


It's possible that masks, social distancing, and zoom sessions are all working for you.


Now that we've all gotten over the initial confusion, people are settling into a new norm. That means it will be easier than ever before to connect with like-minded individuals who want to form a Christ-centred relationship.



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How to get a man's attention without looking desperate

The right and wrong way to get a man's attention.


If you want to get a man's attention AND have a healthy, Christ-centered relationship that can progress from dating to marriage, you have to go from, "Look at me, Look at me" to "I see you, I know you, I've got your back, and I'm here to help."


Trying to date when you're feeling anxiety, loneliness and desperation is a terrible experience for everyone involved.


But it can feel like there's no way out of it other than to try harder.


Which causes you to act more desperate, more anxious, and go home at the...

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Courting and dating are vital to a successful marriage. Here's why

Courting and dating are two essential ingredients that both work together to produce a successful marriage.


They're not opposites, and you don't have to choose one or the other.


On the contrary, you should understand and use both at the appropriate stage of the relationship.


Both courting and dating have tremendous benefits when you do them intentionally from a place of Christ-centered love.


Dating is important for creating opportunities to get to meet and get to know someone.


If you're not interested in any of the men you currently know, then...

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4 Marriage Models That You Need To Know About


Let's be honest; if you don't know what you're looking for, the chances of finding it are pretty slim. Marriages come in all kinds of different shapes and sizes these days, but if you're interested in a Christ-centred covenant marriage, then you'll want to determine which of these 4 marriage models is best for you.


Once you know what you're looking for in a marriage, it will be far easier to find an equally yoked partner.


Here's why:


In the days before women's rights, a nice lady like yourself didn't have much say in who she was going to marry. That decision was...

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A Christ-Centred Covenant Is An Absolutely Miracle For Marriages


Before the resurrection of Jesus Christ, marriage was a matter of life or death for most women.  Enjoying a Christ-centred covenant marriage wasn't an option until Jesus restored what was lost in the Garden of Eden.


Some Christians seem to have forgotten this critical differentiator when teaching on Godly marriage. 


But it's incredibly important if we want to understand how to enjoy marriages that truly honor God and why we see so many polygamist marriages and such strict rules against interracial marriages throughout the Old Testament.


In fact,...

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Get Complete Clarity On Why You Want To Get Married


What if I told you the secret to being successful in marriage was this: never get married for the wedding.

I know, I've poured a little cold water on your dream.
Because let's be real, you've been planning that wedding for a looooong time.

But here’s the sad mistake many people make that not only leaves them exhausted and hating life and often divorced. They say to themselves, “I’m just going to get married and we will figure it all out after the wedding...”

Or “I’m going to get married, and then God will bless our relationship and it will all work...

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Prioritize Self-Care To Make A Faith-Filled Impact On Your Love Life



Self-care gets a bad rap in many Christian circles.

Why is that?

Well, one reason is that many churches are operating using a system that uses power over people, especially single Christian women, to get the bulk of its work done. 

The good news?

You don't have to play by their rules to be a good and faithful servant before God. 

In this post, I want to empower and encourage you to practice self-care biblically without guilt and shame.

I'm also going to expose some of the dirty little truths about why the church treats single women like second-class citizens. 


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Does beating yourself up make you feel better?


Beating yourself up seems to be a hobby for many of the single Christian women I work with. 

For others, it's a quiet ritual they feel compelled to engage in every so often to keep themselves from becoming too proud. 

There's this quiet, sickening idea that has crept into the minds of countless women around the world that we deserve to be punished. 

And if other people aren't doing it to us, we'll do it to ourselves. 

So as we make strides around the world to end violence against women, there's also a dark rising tide of women who feel justified in taking the beating...

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Loveable: Your Ability To Love Yourself and Others


It's that feeling we all long for. We want to believe that it's easy for others to love us. That we are liked for who we are, and we don't have to change a thing.


How many love songs have been written about all the loveable people?
Think of all the loveable quotes that have been shared on Pinterest. Plus, every magazine ever written for women has a least one article in it outlining how to be more likable.


But what if being loveable has nothing to do with how much other people like you?


What if, instead, we focused on the fact that we are already 100%...

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