Before the resurrection of Jesus Christ, marriage was a matter of life or death for most women. Enjoying a Christ-centred covenant marriage wasn't an option until Jesus restored what was lost in the Garden of Eden.
Some Christians seem to have forgotten this critical differentiator when teaching on Godly marriage.
But it's incredibly important if we want to understand how to enjoy marriages that truly honor God and why we see so many polygamist marriages and such strict rules against interracial marriages throughout the Old Testament.
What if I told you the secret to being successful in marriage was this: never get married for the wedding.
I know, I've poured a little cold water on your dream.
Because let's be real, you've been planning that wedding for a looooong time.
But here’s the sad mistake many people make that not only leaves them exhausted and hating life and often divorced. They say to themselves, “I’m just going to get married and we will figure it all out after the wedding...”
Or “I’m going to get married, and then God will bless our relationship and it will all work...
Why is that?
Well, one reason is that many churches are operating using a system that uses power over people, especially single Christian women, to get the bulk of its work done.
The good news?
You don't have to play by their rules to be a good and faithful servant before God.
In this post, I want to empower and encourage you to practice self-care biblically without guilt and shame.
I'm also going to expose some of the dirty little truths about why the church treats single women like second-class citizens.
Beating yourself up seems to be a hobby for many of the single Christian women I work with.
For others, it's a quiet ritual they feel compelled to engage in every so often to keep themselves from becoming too proud.
There's this quiet, sickening idea that has crept into the minds of countless women around the world that we deserve to be punished.
And if other people aren't doing it to us, we'll do it to ourselves.
So as we make strides around the world to end violence against women, there's also a dark rising tide of women who feel justified in taking the beating...
It's that feeling we all long for. We want to believe that it's easy for others to love us. That we are liked for who we are, and we don't have to change a thing.
How many love songs have been written about all the loveable people?
Think of all the loveable quotes that have been shared on Pinterest. Plus, every magazine ever written for women has a least one article in it outlining how to be more likable.
But what if being loveable has nothing to do with how much other people like you?
What if, instead, we focused on the fact that we are already 100%...
Self-love is not selfish!
As a single Christian woman, it's actually an essential part of your walk with God and absolutely critical to establishing an equally yoked relationship and Christ-centred marriage.
But as the world becomes more self-indulgent and egocentric, many women feel that to avoid being seen as selfish; they must become martyrs, burning themselves out to keep others warm.
It's time to bust the myths around self-love and start talking about what it really takes to truly...
Are you wondering how to flirt as a Christian woman?
I mean, what are the rules? And, is it even allowed?
If you're a single Christian lady and you're trying to attract a man, you're bound to get all kinds of unsolicited advice about what's okay and what's not. People are going to tell you that nice ladies don't flirt. And I will tell you, they're wrong!
Flirting is nothing more than communicating that you've noticed and have an interest in someone. When you flirt, you're giving them an invitation to respond accordingly.
So, if you're single and eligible and you...
Dating men from church has become a problem.
Many of my clients have found there's aren't enough of them to go around. Plus, there's' seems to be an uneven playing field. The ratio of women to men is way out of balance, and the boys don't want to play ball.
My client Julie told me that she feels totally frustrated and irritated by the men in her congregation. She goes to a huge church, and she's actively involved with different groups. Although she knows she's attractive, she says that the men in her church are either overly friendly or standoffish.
Others have told me...
Soul ties have a long history of being misunderstood, especially in the church.
These misunderstandings are particularly damaging to single Christian women who want to pursue their God-given desire for marriage.
You, like many women, might have been told that you'll never be able to enjoy a healthy romantic relationship until you break an ungodly soul tie.
Today, I'd like to shed some light on this confusing topic by providing Biblically accurate examples and definitions. I'll also give you some...
One fear plagues single Christian women more than any other, and it sounds like this;
I'm not sure if God wants me to get married.
As a relationship coach, I've heard it repeatedly, and it devastating the Christian community.
I can almost hear you thinking...
I don't want to choose a man over God. I'm afraid that if I pursue marriage, God will be disappointed.
Not only that but you probably also believe that there will be too much temptation and sin on the path to marriage. It seems logical to stay safe and secure in the Lord, rather than risk it all on what...