Soul Ties 101- Everything A Single Christian Woman Ever Wanted To Know and More

guides single and strong Oct 13, 2020

Soul Ties, what are they, and how do you know if you have one? 

Soul ties have a long history of being misunderstood, especially in the church. 

These misunderstandings are particularly damaging to single Christian women who want to pursue their God-given desire for marriage.


You, like many women, might have been told that you'll never be able to enjoy a healthy romantic relationship until you break an ungodly soul tie.


Today, I'd like to shed some light on this confusing topic by providing Biblically accurate examples and definitions. I'll also give you some practical wisdom and tools for dealing with ungodly soul ties and toxic relationships. 


Simply put, soul ties are a way of describing the spiritual connection between two humans. 


Soul tie definitions can vary wildly to include Godly and ungodly, sexual, mutual, one-sided, emotional, and more.


The most commonly known definition is that they are a spiritual connection formed through a sexual relationship.


But this definition fails to account for the many Biblical examples of soul ties and is both limiting, inaccurate, and unhelpful.


While the Bible does not explicitly use the term soul tie or soul mate, we can find many examples of them within its pages. In this article, I'll show you how to identify 3 different types of soul ties and show you where to find examples of each in the Bible.


But first, let's consider a biblical definition.


What is the biblical definition of a soul tie?


A soul tie is the spiritual component of any relationship.
Its original purpose is to use our human relationships to draw us closer to God.

Soul ties can develop over time and naturally become stronger or weaker as the two people in a relationship become more or less attached. 


These relationships or soul ties can be formed biologically, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Some of these connections are destructive and ungodly, and commonly referred to as ungodly soul ties. 


Remember, God created us as social creatures who are completely dependant on Him. He desires that we are deeply and spiritually connected with those around u. 


Even though soul ties aren't directly mentioned in the Bible, that doesn't mean they're not in there. It simply means we need to be clear about what we're referring to. 

 3 Types of Soul Ties 

  1. Mental
  2. Emotional
  3. Physical


Let me emphasize that soul ties are the spiritual side of any relationship, and they are a gift from God. God uses them to help us to commit to one another.

Their purpose is to help us stand firm in faith so that His Kingdom can come and His will be done. God wants us to be connected so that we can live out His divine will for our lives.

Their rightful purpose is to promote wholehearted unity and oneness in the body of Christ. They are the natural by-product of our relationships.


Soul ties can be mutual or one-sided.


Mutual soul ties occur when two people have a relationship with one another. They love or hate each other, and they're aware of the impact they have on one another. Married couples are a great example of this type. 


One-sided soul ties occur when one person is excessively attached to someone who may not even know they exist. This could happen when one person falls in love, but the other person is not reciprocating. It's a one-sided relationship.


When this repeatedly occurs, generation after generation, we can see how a generational curse is formed. So if your great-great-grandmother fell in love with the strongest man in the village who didn't even know her name, and then she settled for your great great grandfather.

Your great grandmother fell for the president but married your great grandfather instead. Your grandmother fell in love with Elvis but married your grandfather Joe, and now you're comparing every man you know to Ryan Gossin, you might see how the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.


The difference between a soul tie vs. a soul mate. 

The idea behind the term "soul mate" comes from ancient Greek philosophy. 

It suggests that two humans share one soul. As the story goes, Zeus got jealous and split the human soul into two. As a result, we wander the earth looking for our other half so that we can be reunited and complete. 

There's nothing Biblical about the idea of soul mates. 

You are made whole and complete in Christ. Not through a relationship with another human, no matter how wonderful he is. 

God created you, and through Christ, you're destined to spend eternity with Him. Personally, I don't believe in soul mates. There's nothing biblical about them, and it's a destructive way of thinking about a relationship.

But, let's explore the different ways these spiritual connections are created.

I will show you how soul ties are formed in a Godly and healthy way and then show you how Satan has twisted and perverted them for his own destructive purposes.


Most soul ties are actually formed through our mental processes. 
Since we are spiritual beings, we learn best through relationships. God gave us the ability to impart wisdom, knowledge, skill, and spiritual gifts to one another. Throughout the Bible, we see examples of mentor-mentee relationships. This is God's primary vehicle for transferring information. We've got; Moses and Joshua, Elijah and Elisha, Paul and Timothy, and most importantly, Jesus and His disciples.


God's model for education is a spiritual one. What we impart to one another matters.


God expected us to share His words and commanded us, "Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up" Deuteronomy 11:19.


Yet Satan uses this vehicle too and takes us wildly off course.


When this important relationship is corrupted, we see evidence of picking up other people's bad habits, false ideologies, and toxic mindsets. Instead of instructing each other in the ways of the Lord, societies become flooded with corrupt systems of thinking.




Next, let's consider emotional soul ties.
Strong soul ties are forged out of shared experiences and emotions. Think about Ruth and Naomi. Their mutual loss, mourning, and grief impacted Ruth to such an extent that she decides to cut her biological and social ties to her past and form a deep emotional connection to her mother-in-law, Naomi.


Ruth declares to Naomi, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God." Ruth 1:16


Her shared emotional experience with Naomi has allowed her to commit to being an essential part of Isreal's history. Through these emotional connections, we can see how God uses these moments of deep sorrow and joy to weave outsiders into His family tapestry.


On the other hand, Satan is doing his best to get us emotionally tied up with the wrong people who will ultimately bring us to our own destruction. 


We all know that if we're headed downhill, there's no way to get there faster than to bring someone else down with us.


I'm sure you can think of countless examples where you did something that went against your better judgment, and you used the classic excuse "everyone else was doing it".

When we talk about peer pressure, what we are essentially talking about is emotional soul ties. People are so connected to their peer group that they no longer have the desire to act independently.   




Finally, we have physical soul ties.
Probably the most well-known method of creating a soul tie is through sexual relationships. These can be formed through any sexual activity.


"That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh<

God created us with an intense desire for oneness, known by another, to be seen, loved, and appreciated.

These desires are designed to be fulfilled through marriage and the sexual union between a husband and his wife. We come together physically and bring forth new life!

Satan spoiled it.

So, now we see this holy and beautiful entwining of two separate and distinct people becoming one, being used to sell everything from cars to cigarettes.

In this way, the wedding bed has been defiled.
Our society no longer appreciates the sanctity of marriage. We've turned people into commodities that can be bought and sold, manipulated, and abused.

Soul Ties Are Not Indestructible

Now you can see additional ways in which soul ties are meant to unite us for the glory of God, and how Satan has used them to bind and blind us to the Truth. 

Many of our primary relationships that ought to be good, holy, supportive, caring, and nurturing have been destroyed or tangled by our sins and the work of the enemy.

God designed these connections for our good. But, Satan has taken advantage of these them and succeeded in knotting the lines. Now be encouraged, because there is a solution.

Jesus came to set the captives free!
Wherever freedom is needed, forgiveness is necessary.

I know how important it is for you to be free from every evil and ungodly soul tie. 

I’ve seen the damage that is caused by unholy alliances and perverse relationships. I understand the pain and heartbreak that is caused by divorce, dysfunctional families, and broken friendships.

Despite your best efforts to move on, you might still be feeling like your spiritual progress is severely crippled.

If these relationships are holding you, make the decision today to evaluate your relationships, and eliminate ungodly soul ties by adopting the mind of Christ. 

You can get help with this inside my private Facebook community. 
It's a safe space in which single Christian women are wholeheartedly pursuing their God-given desire for marriage. 

I provide teaching, group coaching, and support to help you navigate the various challenges that come up along the path towards a Christ-centred marriage. 

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Now, I would love to hear from you!

I hope you’ve found this useful.
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My goal is to help single Christian women like you pursue your God-given desire for Marriage. If ungodly soul ties keep you from doing that, please let me help by asking questions in the comments section below. 

And I have a few questions for you…

  • What are some of the myths you've been told about soul ties?
  • What’s one thing you wish the church would talk about more openly when it comes to relationships?
  • What advice would you give to someone who has a toxic relationship?

Leave a comment below and let me know. 

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