#42: Facts Vs. The Truth of God. How To Discern The Difference

forever love podcast Sep 23, 2021

Today I want to talk about our attachment to our stories.

I talk to clients all the time who are extremely sentimental about their stories even though they are painful and holding them back.

Just the other day, I was working with someone who wanted to tell me all about how everything was against them.

Statistics, the church, friends, books, podcasts, everyone, and everything.

This viewpoint was clearly painful and holding her back from pursuing her God-given desire for love and relationship, but she was reluctant to let it go because it seemed true.

And I want to share with you what I told her.

And that is this…

Get your pen and paper out because it’s worth writing down.

There is a difference between facts and truth.

Let me say that again!

There is a difference between facts and truth.



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Forever Love Podcast Episode #42 | Transcript


Don’t you love the smell of homemade bread?

It’s one of life’s little pleasures to walk into the house and be greeted by the wafting scent of warm bread fresh out of the oven. 

And it is most certainly true that a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. 

No doubt, part of the appeal I had over Lovingson in the early days was my ability to whip up delightful sandwiches crafted out of fresh bread. 

I bought my bread-making machine from a yard sale when I was 25 and loved turning simple ingredients into splendid delights. 

In fact, When we moved to Zimbabwe, I packed my bread machine into my suitcase along with other essential items and stocked up on the little packets of yeast. I wanted to make sure that I wouldn’t lose this little bit of what makes a house homey. 

Also, Zimbabwe was going through a bit of a bread crisis when we arrived, and it was virtually impossible to find a sliced loaf on the store shelves. 

So with great delight, I plugged in my machine in our new tiny kitchen, added the ingredients, and immediately fried the motor. 

Instead of lovely fresh smells, my kitchen was filled with the stink of burnt engine smoke. 

I was terribly disappointed. 

My husband had warned me that a simple adapter wouldn’t be enough to convert the high voltage of Zimbabwe’s power supply into standard Canadian-approved kilowatts. 

To this day, the breadmaker is sitting on the back porch because maybe someday we will be able to outfit it with a new motor. 

We both know that’s never going to happen, but it’s nice to dream. 

In the meantime, I wasn’t about to give up my love of warm golden goodness. 

I’d just have to learn how to make bread from scratch. 

And since prepackaged yeast is insanely overpriced, I got curious about where yeast comes from and where women in the Bible were getting it from. 

And let me tell you, I have such a richer and deeper understanding of scripture simply because I learned to cultivate and care for my own yeast. 

We named him Fred. 

Yes. Fred now lives in a glass jar in our kitchen, and we are diligent about feeding him every day, and he is honestly even more rewarding than my bread machine ever was. 

Needless to say, we’re rather attached to Fred. 

He grows, he smells, he rises, and bubbles. 

We like Fred. 

And I’m not the only one. As I learned more about making sourdough bread and caring for active yeast, I discovered that many people keep their yeast for years and years.

Some even hand it down to the next generation. 

And I get it! 

A lot of care goes into the process, and it gives your bread a specific and unique flavor and aroma. 

And that got me thinking about the traditional Jewish Passover and the fact that every household eliminates all the yeast or leaven from their homes and started the process all over again 1 week later. 

The Bible says: 

“For seven days no leaven shall be found in your houses, since whoever eats what is leavened, that same person shall be cut off from the congregation of Israel, whether he is a stranger or a native of the land. You shall eat nothing leavened; in all your dwellings you shall eat unleavened bread” (Ex 12:19-20). 

I learned that...

“As Jewish people prepare for Passover, each family removes the leaven from their home. Then, during a ceremony called Bedikat Chametz, every traditional household conducts a final search for leaven throughout the house, gathers it together, and burns it, after which the house is kosher for Passover.” 

This got me thinking about how attached we get to things.

Not just yeast, but our stories, identities, history, drama, and limiting beliefs. 

We keep them with us, feed them daily, and let them grow. 

Sometimes we even pass them down to the next generation. 

But, I love that one of the primary themes throughout the Gospels is that we have an opportunity to renew our lives, our commitments, our identities, and our stories, not just yearly through the Passover, but DAILY. 

Each day we are invited to throw out the old and embrace the fresh mana of the morning. 

We can die to ourselves daily, die to whoever we think we were, and be reborn in Christ as often as necessary. 

*** Music***

Hi, I’m Lily Mtongwiza, your Christ-centered Relationship coach, and this is the Forever Love Podcast. 

Today I want to talk about our attachment to our stories. Because stories, are a lot like yeast. 

I talk to clients all the time who are extremely sentimental about their stories even though they are painful and holding them back. 

Just the other day, I was working with someone who wanted to tell me all about how everything was against them. 

Statistics, the church, friends, books, podcasts, everyone and everything. 

This viewpoint was clearly painful and holding her back from pursuing her God-given desire for love and relationship, but she was reluctant to let it go because it seemed true. 

And I want to share with you what I told her. 

And that is this… 

Get your pen and paper out because it’s worth writing down. 

There is a difference between facts and truth. 

Let me say that again! 

There is a difference between facts and truth. 

Satan is more than capable of using facts. He will quote scripture, point at all the data, and make an excellent air-tight case for why you’re doomed to fail. 

And the thing is, it’s all technically true.

Or is it?  

Here’s the most important thing to remember about the truth. 

It sets you free. 

So if the facts don’t set you free, guess what, it’s not Captial T Truth. 

If the information or stories you’ve gathered make you feel small, ashamed, guilty, discouraged, held back, broken, wounded, or unworthy, it’s not God’s truth. 

It might be factual. But since when did our facts matter to God?

This is why it’s so important to be in the daily practice of renewing your mind and adopting the mind of Christ. 

There’s so much junk that gets lodged in our heads that certainly seems true.

And just like with the yeast, we have a tendency to feed those stories every single day. And the world around us gives us plenty of additional food for thought. 

But I want to encourage you not to believe everything you hear. 

Because if it doesn’t give life, if it doesn’t produce the fruit of the Holy Spirit, then it’s just not of much real value, is it? 

And this is hard!

I remember as a baby Christian there’s that saying which goes, “The Bible says it, I believe it, That settles it! 

And in my desire to be a good obedient daughter, I decided to stop arguing with scripture. I was just going to have faith and believe. 

I’ve always been a bit of a rebel, and so this felt like good, dutiful submission.

I was done questioning everything, and I was ready to trust and obey. 

This went well for several years, and then my husband and I realized we were part of a cult.


Now I have a much better filter for what I believe. 

I use The Life Code and adopt the Mind of Christ, which you can learn all about in episode 5 and I filter things through the fruit of the Holy Spirit. Does this idea produce Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, or Self Control? 

If not, it’s probably being manipulated or being manipulated to hurt others. 

Now maybe you’re wondering, Okay, Lily, but how do I actually do that? How do I adopt the mind of Christ?

Well, I want to encourage you to go back to episode 5, where I explain “The Life Code,” which is an essential tool I use to help me capture every evil imagination and adopt the mind of Christ instead.

This tool allows you to see things from a heavenly perspective and intentionally cultivate the fruit of the Holy Spirit in a way that just makes sense. 

Because I know from experience, those fruit don’t just grow by default of being a Christian. 

So, what stories about your current or past circumstances are holding you back? 

Maybe, it’s a story about why no one will like you. You’re too old or to heavy. You’re boring or an introvert. 

What are you telling yourself on a daily basis in seemingly harmless ways? 

Are you like me, and have a tendency to suck in your tummy everytime you walk past a shiny surface and catch a glimpse of your reflection?

Or maybe you’re the type who likes to blame God; He’s supposed to provide, and clearly, He has forgotten about you.

Are you telling yourself that you don’t deserve love? 

Or that there just aren’t enough good men out there? 

Are you competing with the women around you, fuelled by a scarcity mindset and a winner takes all attitude? 

Or are you mad at the men for being immature, unappreciative, or nonbelievers? 

What’s the story? 

I’m asking you this because it’s important to become at least aware of it. 

Because most of the time, you won’t even recognize it for what it is. 

You will naturally assume that this is reality.

But I’m here to tell you; it’s not. 

God determines reality. He gets to decide what’s true, what’s possible, and what’s not.

And He says, “You can move mountains.”

Next, I want you to consider who is feeding you this story that you’re currently bought into.

Who inspired it? 

Oftentimes, critical components of our story come from this mean girl side of us.

She’s snarky, vicious, and condescending, especially to you. 

Your inner mean girl has a lot of nasty ideas about you and all the ways you’re messing it up or not ready, worthy, or something to have and achieve your God-given desires. 

She is also bitter and expects things to be handed to her. And when they’re not, she throws a tantrum. 

I like to encourage my clients to really get to know her.

  • What does she look like? 
  • What does she sound like? 
  • What’s her name? 
  • What does she want?
  • And who do you think is controlling her? 

I see this inner mean girl as a puppet on strings being manipulated by fear and used by our real enemy, Satan. 

It’s an effective rouse because this inner mean girl (I call mine Cynthia because she reminds me of the ratty old barbie doll Angelica plays with on the TV show Rug Rats.)

Anyways, this inner mean girl is capable of shooting these fiery darts at our most vulnerable moments. 

And it always sounds like she’s right. 

But she’s NOT. 

And just like the yeast, we have to learn to let go of that sentimental barbie doll and embrace what is real and genuine. 

That capital T truth that sets us free. 

So, your mission today, should you choose to accept it, is to get to know your inner mean girl.

Write about her in your prayer journal. Draw a picture of her. Give her a name. 

Start to recognize that she has been the one dictating most of your story. Then, start setting some boundaries. 

Because, she’s wrong.

She’s wrong about who you are, what you’re capable of, and what you deserve. 

Recognize that Satan is using fear to manipulate her like a puppet, and you have the power to cut those strings. 

You don’t have to condemn this inner mean girl; she’s often just a reflection of your wounded parts. 

But if you can stop treating everything she says as gospel truth, you’ll be able to do a lot of healing. 

Try showing her a little love and compassion. And when she gets mouthy, put her away in the toy box and get on with your real life. 

Sound Good?


Until Next Time,

God Bless You! 


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