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#122: Red Flag, Green Flag: What to Watch for When Establishing Trust in New Relationships

forever love podcast Oct 20, 2023
Red and Green flags to watch for in new relationships.


Have you ever felt like you were walking on eggshells in a new relationship, unsure whether to trust your partner completely?


It's a common problem when you don't know how to recognize both Red and Green flags in a relationship. 

In today's Episode of Forever Love, we delved deep into the world of trust in new relationships, discussing red flags, green flags, and everything in between. If you're eager to learn how to establish trust in your budding romances, you're in the right place. In this blog post, we'll recap the key insights from the episode and provide even more guidance on nurturing trust. Let's get started!


Recognizing Red Flags

The Early Warning Signs

In the podcast, Saphire discussed the importance of recognizing red flags in new relationships. These early warning signs can help you avoid potential heartache down the road. Here are some of the key red flags to watch out for:

  • Lack of Transparency: If your partner is secretive about their past or avoids important conversations, it could be a red flag.
  • Controlling Behavior: Does your partner try to control your actions or isolate you from friends and family? These are warning signs of a potentially unhealthy relationship.
  • Inconsistencies: Be cautious if your partner's words and actions don't align. Inconsistencies can indicate dishonesty.

Embracing Green Flags

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

On the flip side, green flags are indicators of a healthy and trustworthy relationship. These are the qualities you should look for in a partner:

  • Open Communication: A partner who encourages open and honest communication is a keeper.
  • Respect for Boundaries: Green-flag partners respect your boundaries and encourage you to maintain them.
  • Empathy and Understanding: If your partner shows empathy and understanding, it's a positive sign that they value your feelings and experiences.

Building Trust Through Authenticity

Authenticity as the Foundation

Authenticity is a cornerstone of trust in any relationship. To build trust, both partners must be true to themselves and open in their communication. Here's how to do it:

  • Be Yourself: Authenticity begins with being true to yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not to please your partner.
  • Open Communication: Encourage open and honest conversations about your thoughts, feelings, and concerns.
  • Vulnerability: Trust is often built when both partners are willing to be vulnerable and share their true selves.

Navigating Jealousy and Control

Red Flags in Jealousy and Control

Jealousy and controlling behavior can quickly erode trust in a relationship. Here's how to recognize and address these red flags:

  • Recognize Jealousy: If your partner becomes excessively jealous or tries to control your interactions with others, it's a red flag.
  • Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries in your relationship and communicate them to your partner.
  • Seek Help if Needed: If jealousy and control become a pervasive issue, consider seeking professional guidance or counseling.

The Power of Honesty

Honesty as the Glue

Honesty and trustworthiness are fundamental to any healthy relationship. Here's how to prioritize honesty in your romantic journey:

  • Practice Radical Honesty: Be honest with your partner even when it's difficult.
  • Trust Your Intuition: If something doesn't feel right, trust your gut instinct and address it with your partner.
  • Avoid Excuses: Don't make excuses for dishonesty in your relationship. Address it head-on.

Choosing Nourishing Relationships

Seek Relationships That Nourish Your Soul

Just like choosing nourishing food, it's essential to choose relationships that feed your soul. Here's how to identify and cultivate green-flag relationships:

  • Look for Safety and Respect: Seek partners who prioritize safety, respect, empathy, and healthy conflict resolution.
  • Long-Term Enjoyment: Consider whether the relationship is enjoyable in the long term, not just in the initial excitement.
  • Healthy Relationships: Choose partners who contribute positively to your life and well-being.

Self-Awareness and Mutual Respect

Building Trust through Self-Awareness

Self-awareness, effective communication, and mutual respect are the building blocks of trust. Here's how to incorporate these elements into your relationship:

  • Know Yourself: Self-awareness is key. Understand your own values, needs, and boundaries.
  • Effective Communication: Practice open and respectful communication with your partner.
  • Healthy Conflict Resolution: Differentiate between healthy disagreements and unhealthy conflicts. Resolve conflicts in a constructive way.

Remember, building trust in a new relationship takes time, effort, and mutual respect. By recognizing red flags and embracing green flags, you can lay the foundation for a loving and lasting partnership.

If you haven't already, be sure to listen to the full podcast episode for even more insights and stories from Saphire Lily Mtongwiza. Trust the journey, and may your path to forever love be filled with trust, authenticity, and joy.



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