Hi, I'm Lily!
I believe that your marriage matters!
The purpose of my work (and this site) is to encourage, educate, and empower YOU so that you can confidently pursue your God-given desire for a Christ-centred marriage.
Before I got married to the man of my dreams, I got a divorce.
Scared to death of disappointing God, and trying to prove something to my mother, I married my high school sweetheart in my first year of university.
That was an epic mistake!
After living together for a brief three months, I came to terms with the fact that I married him for all the wrong reasons. We went our separate ways, and I spent the next few years committed to doing what I want when I want.
That landed me in a very dark and lonely place.
And down in my pit of despair and loneliness is where I finally met Jesus.
Establishing a healthy and successful marriage was not a smooth ride.
Although I was walking with Jesus, the road to becoming an emotional and spiritual adult was long.
I had to make a major shift from blaming everyone, to taking full responsibility for the results I had created in my life.
That shift was jarring, to say the least.
When I finally remarried, I was determined to make sure that my latter days were greater than the former.
I dove deep into the study of relationships, psychology, and personal development, all with the guiding principle that the truth in any of those subjects would always line up with the word of God.
True Love Doesn’t Stop Bad Things From Happening.
Lovingson and I share essential core values that make our marriage work.
Still, our culture and life experiences were polar opposites. It took time for us to adjust to each other.
Plus, every blessing we enjoyed seemed to come with an even bigger punch in the face.
We had our first child together, Chipo.
At 12 months old, we discovered she has type 1 diabetes.
We were in full-time ministry together.
It turned out to be a cult.
We relocated our family to Zimbabwe so that we could spend more time together.
We were on opposite sides of the world for over 8 months during the Covid-19 pandemic.
Life wasn’t any easier just because I got to call myself Mrs. Mtongwiza.
But through it all, I learned an important lesson.
I could adopt the mind of Christ.
I discovered that I could learn to look at my life and anything that happened through God’s eyes and take full responsibility for my thoughts, feelings, and emotion.
Not only that, I could choose what to think, how to feel, and drive my behaviors. I discovered that the Fruit of the Holy Spirit are fuel that I can use to pursue my God-given desires.
Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self-Control.
I used these fruit as fuel to replace fear, frustration, and doubt and other negative emotions that sabotage my best efforts.
This truth has revolutionized my relationship with my husband, and it’s the number 1 thing I wish I could share with the girl I used to be.
I know how devastating divorce is, and I understand why God hates it.
I hate it too.
Not because I think women should stay in broken marriages, but because it’s the inevitable outcome of looking for love in all the wrong places.
Now, I’m on a mission to prevent as many divorces as possible.
I’m committed to empowering Christian women to date deliberate, court with confidence, and pursue their God-given desires for marriage from a place of wisdom and blessed assurance.
When you know who you are and whose you are, you’ll never settle for anything less than God’s best.
And the best time to learn that lesson is while you're single!
You need to believe that you are loved, worthy, and capable of having a successful marriage.
Over the years, I’ve developed a reputation for teaching deeply spiritual concepts in a very practical way.
I don’t just repeat the same old biblical principles you’ve heard a dozen times; I get down into the nitty-gritty details of how and why.
Trying to be obedient to the word of God, without having an extremely practical and detailed how-to guide always left me feeling like a failure. Like there was something wrong with me.
That’s why I break everything I teach down into simple, straightforward, actionable steps. I will help you develop healthy habits that improve your walk with God and lead you closer to a successful, Christ-centred marriage.
I’m able to do this because I live what I teach.
And, I only teach what I know to be proven and fruitful.
I teach what I’ve personally done to have a successful relationship with the man of my dreams and God.
If you like what you’re reading and want to get started with my free course right away, check out my 3 Keys to a Successful Relationship.Start The Free Course Now
Are you ready to get started on the life-changing and transformative journey of pursuing your God-given desire for marriage?
If I hear one more woman drop the old phrase, “you’ve got to wait on the Lord,” I will lose it!
Because you’ve been waiting.
And if waiting is leaving you confused, bitter, and a little bit angry watching Netflix on the couch with a tub of ice cream, you’re doing it wrong.
That’s why you’re here.
Because there’s got to be a better way.
Let’s break the cycle.
I know you’re tired of signing up for dating sites, getting frustrated, and eventually deleting your account. Then, you go back to waiting on the lord, getting bored, feeling lonely, until one night at 11:00 PM you sign back up on a Christian dating site only to be appalled by dick pics sent from guys who claim to know Jesus.
Oh, by the way, I don’t’ beat around the bush.
This is no Pollyanna style pep talk where I tell you to just believe in yourself because the right man is just around the corner.
No, successful relationships take skill and practice, and wisdom.
You’re going to have to go outside of your comfort zone, take responsibility for the results you’re creating, and then be intentional about your pursuit of marriage.
By reading this, you’ve proven that you’re willing to DO the work – you just want to make absolutely sure you’re doing the RIGHT work at the RIGHT time.
And feel confident that every bit of effort you invest will lead to a relationship that honors God and feels fantastic!
Ready to take your first step and pursue your God-given desire for marriage?
Start by diving into one of my custom collections.
Single & Strong
Practice self-love, deal with your past, and become an emotional/spiritual adult.
To help you get out there and start practicing the art of attraction.